Addiction, Alcoholism and Codependent

Codependent – Let Go of the Controls

“You have the controls,” my flight instructor says. “No, you have the controls,” I say back.

“No I don’t,” he says. “You do.”

My banter with my flight instructor can be amusing at times. It’s not so funny when we fight about issues of power and control in our lives. And usually it goes the other way. We don’t want to give the controls to someone else; we want those reins ourselves.

We want to get our way. And we get upset when things don’t work out. Sometimes, after we’ve been working on ourselves and our control issues for a while, we begin to get complacent. Because we’ve been so effectively using and directing our power, we rarely get in battles we can’t win. Things work out smoothly. We mostly get our way, because we’re not trying to control what we can’t. That’s when it’s easy to think we’re more powerful than we are.

Power Struggle?

Are you engaged in a power struggle with someone or something you can’t change? Spend a moment thinking about it. Is that really the way you want to use your energy and power, trying to do the impossible, creating rifts, and fighting battles you can’t win? When we try to control someone else or events beyond the scope of our power, we lose. in the solution.

Powerless

Learn to say “whatever” when you don’t get what you want. Learn to let things be the way they are.

God, help me to let go of my need to control and to be open to the flow of the universe.

Gratefully shared From the desk of Melody Beattie
Originally posted March 15, 2015

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